Sex is the natural, logical extension of love – love that couples share for each other. Yet more than any other activity within the ambit of human endeavour, Sex has elicited the maximum opinion from individuals, societies and religions throughout history. For it is Sex alone that is mundane and everyday, yet also mystical, almost divine. Almost every religious system has something to say about sex either overtly or covertly. People have through the ages extolled the virtues of abstinence while others have preached the healthful benefits of a normal sexual life. We all agree that as a source of pleasure for humans, indulgence in sex is a rare high! So there you have it – whatever you do, you just can’t ignore sex.
In the ancient World, sex was far from being the taboo subject that many societies later made it. In fact the ancients did a considerable amount of research into the phenomenon of sex, and its apparent role in human evolution. Historians would argue it was the values of the Victorian era that largely stigmatized sex, especially if it were practiced outside of the narrow confines of what was deemed proper. Strangely, while the West underwent a sexual revolution in the 1960’s, the Asian cultures that the colonial era had indelibly influenced are only now gradually ‘opening up’ to sexuality. Whereas India has a rich history of sexuality depicted in Art and Mythology, modern-day Indians outside the big cities cringe at the sight of even kissing on the cinema screen!
Beautiful Living and Sex:
We all know and understand that sex creates, maintains and deepens the intimacy that couples share. In fact, it is one of the private pleasures that couples share. Scientists say that healthy relationships are characterized by higher sexual activity – the benchmark healthy average is closer to about 3 times per week. Of course, as individuals grow older, (especially as in post-menopausal women) the sexual appetite reduces. This is caused by the changing hormonal environment within our bodies.
Apart from being a sort of cementing factor in a relationship, Sex also has tremendous Health benefits for the individual. We know that having sex is a great cardiovascular exercise (surely more enjoyable that jogging!). People who have sex more often have a lower risk of suffering heart disease. This is in many ways due to the fact that sex is a very good stress-buster! Yes, in the period after having sex, we experience a relaxed calm – due to the secretion of Prolactin, a hormone that induces relaxation.
At the psychological level, a healthy sex life plays a vital role in maintaining ‘normalness’. However, abstinence from sex has been around for a very long time. It is interesting to examine the concept of ‘Bhramacharya’ – Yogic and Hindu term often thought of as relating to abstinence from sex for spiritual progress. However, a more practical and in fact a better definition of the state of Bhramacharya, would be – not being obsessed with sexual thoughts throughout the day. I think most people would agree that this is both a concrete and achievable state that is certainly a must for attaining Peace of mind and relaxation.
Man is a social animal and in most cultures there is some sort of pressure on individuals to ‘settle down’ and marry. This monogamous relationship leading to the establishment of family structure is the basis for societal structure. If everyone was to constantly experiment sexually, society as we know it would not exist. Whether it would be replaced by another societal code is anyone’s guess. It is often said that Man is the only animal that procreates for pleasure – all the others in the animal world have sex solely to produce offspring. It’s hard to imagine a world where even Man followed this pattern! What would happen to the Arts, imagination and fantasy? Most of the world as we know it is sense-oriented and sex is the culmination of sensual experience.
Everything from the pitter-patter of rain, to melodious music, to dark chocolate gives us a sensory stimulus. For the sensual man/ woman, sex is a fluid extension of this sensuality (given the circumstances are right, and the partner is equally in tune with the mood). We spend so much time creating the mood – elevating sex to some sort of ritual. But that is exactly the joy of a complete sensual awakening, having every little thing contribute to a culmination that goes beyond the biological orgasm.
As Samuel Taylor Coleridge wrote:
“And from this chasm, with ceaseless turmoil seething,
As if this earth in fast thick pants were breathing,
A mighty fountain momently was forced :
Amid whose swift half-intermitted burst
Huge fragments vaulted like rebounding hail,
Or chaffy grain beneath the thresher’s flail :
And ‘mid these dancing rocks at once and ever
It flung up momently the sacred river.”
in his poem Kubla Khan, describing the source of a sacred river. This is a truly beautiful, sensual vision of nature through the words of one of the most romantic poets of all time.
Couple Stretches to enhance Sexuality:
And finally to some practical tips on enhancing your Sex life, and the fulfillment it gives you!
We know that having a flexible and strong body is important to practice a variety of sexual postures. In fact overall fitness is critical, including cardiovascular ability and stamina. In this article we look at a few stretches that you could do with your partner to improve each other’s flexibility; especially around the hip area. It’s also a nice way to get into the mood – a kind of preliminary foreplay.
Go ahead and enjoy yourselves. Remember that these stretches are all the more effective once the body is warmed up, for instance, after a walk.
Stretched leg inner thigh couple stretch
Seated inner thigh Couple Stretch
Total Yoga is a balanced style of Yoga that focuses on Fitness training and Mindfulness practice equally.